You start to take notice of certain things, you never noticed before. He has suddenly lost interest in you sexually or has become distant and detached emotionally. Then one day it happens, you catch him masturbating to pornography, or maybe you stumble upon his hidden pornography stored in some hidden folder on his computer… or vastly worse your children find it.
It will end all the sneaking around. She had long since given up hope of him quitting his online addiction, but this was too much. How can that be wrong?
From the LYWB. We are hearing from more and more young women struggling with a curiosity toward or addiction to porn. We decided to tackle the subject head-on by inviting our friend Jessica Harris to guest blog on the subject for us.
My wife, Ashley, and I were walking off stage at a marriage conference recently when a distraught woman came up to us. With tears rolling down her cheeks, she told us that she needed prayer and guidance. Through her sobs, she shared a tragically familiar story. Her once happy marriage had slowly been poisoned by pornography.
Christian women are porn consumers too. You might not believe me when I say this. There are genres of porn specifically marketed to women because the porn industry recognises there is a profit to be made from this demographic.
However, I know what it feels like to be caught in the trap of pornography as a Christian woman. Yes, I have struggled with pornography. It is not something that I am proud of, and to be honest, it is something that I wish never happened, but God is using this dark season from my past for His good.
Because ethnicity is part of the good of creation, we seek to honor and celebrate the ethnic identity of those with whom we serve as well as those we seek to reach. They are in a fierce battle, and as bullets fly at them from all directions, they need to keep moving forward. The shame attached to sexual sin, including addiction to pornography, may be the wound keeping a generation of Christian men, and increasingly women, from the life God intended for them.
She grew up in a Christian home with well-meaning parents. There were very few discussions about sex and certainly no discussions about pornography. At the same time, Alice was dealing with a bigger issue: she was being severely bullied at school. This left her feeling raw.
Trish was 16 when she discovered her first porn video. Fueled by curiosity, she watched it and was alarmed how it simultaneously frightened and aroused her. Although she was very involved in her church youth group, she would watch the video repeatedly.