I casually mentioned a trip my husband and I took to a bed and breakfast and she started sobbing. It took a few minutes, but she began sharing some very personal details about her marriage. She later gave me permission to write about what she shared in hope that others might learn from her experience.
The day when I could finally know my husband on a sexual level. But now the honeymoon is over and real life has begun. Oh how I longed to be with him!
Sex sells. It makes everything--from cars to paper towels--more appealing. This quest for orgasm seems to be a major motivating force, but recent studies suggest that not everyone is oohing and ahhing like actors in shampoo commercials.
They have sex about three times a week, which might strike many as enviable, considering that John and Jane—who are in their 40s—have been together for nearly two decades. Based on numbers alone, one might wonder why they need couples counseling at all. Or frequency. Or different.
People say communication is the key to a successful relationship. Before you start feeling too lousy about yourself, know there are some much more complex issues at play. Acknowledging these complications is the first step to starting the discussion.
The idea that a woman might want sex for her own pleasure, rather than using it as bait for a romantic partner is anathema to many. However, the idea that men are more sexual than women is a societal belief rather than fact — something that becomes clearer when you study how this perception has changed over time. And it is far from the only historical text to suggest women are just as sexual as men — if not more so.
I feel a need to address both women and men on this matter, because it DOES matter. Both feel very strongly about this part of their marriage. But it also addresses what it is like for the man to be refused.
While you were dating and during the honeymoon years of your marriageyou lovebirds likely couldn't keep your hands off of each other. Physical attraction and sex are trademark signs of a healthy relationship, according to research published in the Journal of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences. But how does sexual intimacy between partners adapt with age? As men age, it's natural for them to experience a somewhat decreased sex drive, says Jeanne O'ConnellM.
Family therapist Jill Whitney agrees. Women are reporting less inhibition and more confidence when it comes to initiating sex, and up to 72 percent of college-aged men say they prefer that. Studies across cultures consistently conclude that women have lower sex drives compared to men, and some show that long-term relationships can deplete this drive even further.